One of the best read in the recent past - Useful Life Skills Everyone Should Learn To Be Successful

Useful Life Skills Everyone Should Learn To Be Successful

Nobody becomes a success overnight. It's those long hours spent working towards a dream that, more often than not, go unnoticed. But it's not just hard work that gets you right up there, in front of the public eye. Even a donkey can work hard, but that doesn't mean it works smart. Here are some really important life skills every successful person has in life, and something we should follow if we ever want to be anywhere close to our idols.

1. Taking feedback

We know it's not always easy to take feedback. In fact, it's in every Indian's personality to refuse any ownership of the mistakes they make. What we fail to realise is that the other person is only trying to help us out. The best way to work around this is to put your emotions aside while being spoken to, and try to only focus on the information that is being presented. Whether the information is right or not, should be decided by your mind, and not your ego.

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2. Recovering from failure

If we don't fall, how will we ever learn to stand up again? Easier said than done, but one needs to pick oneself up, and move on. Every failure should be a learning experience. It should teach at least one thing that you shouldn't do the next time round. If we are able to recognise that, it'll only makes us stronger, and give an insight as to why we were failing all this while.

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3. Apologising sincerely

Saying 'sorry' sometimes becomes the hardest thing to do. While most of us try and avoid the situation, all of us know it is the right thing. An apology holds for nothing if it isn't sincere. Be sincere when you're apologising to someone. Ask them why they felt bad, and tell them that it'll never happen again. 

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4. Saying 'Thank You'

The people who are there around you are there because they care for you in some measure or the other. They support you, and help you make your life a better place to live in. No matter how much of a 'lone wolf' you think you are, or act like, no one can survive on their own, so be gracious and generous in your thank yous.

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5. Prioritising

Take a deep breath, and realise what's important for you. If you really think preparing for that meeting is more important than having dinner with your family, then do so. If family's more important, then shut that laptop and go spend time with them. Make sure you give your 100% no matter what. Doing one thing while thinking about the other will not only give you a major fear of missing out, but you're also more likely to not do what you're doing properly. List out your priorities, make a plan for them, execute. Simple advice but definitely not easy. Everyone messes it up from time to time. 

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6. Learning how to adapt to things

Whoever said 'Change is the only constant', couldn't have phrased it any better. The beauty of life is that it's always changing. People, things, moments, emotions, everything keeps evolving constantly, and it is upon us to learn how to adapt to things. Being on your toes and being ready for change is perhaps one of the most important things in life. 

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7. Be curious

One should never stop learning in their lives. It's one of the few things that remain constant. Right from the time we are born, to when it's time to shut our eyes for good, we are learning. The internet has only added fuel to this fire of curiosity in humans. You should always have the 'want' to learn something new. The smallest of DIY hacks could make a difference someday, who knows. Never undermine the importance of the things you learnt. Try to consciously say YES to things that are unknown. Just don't get yourself into trouble though.

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8. Saying 'NO' when you should is equally important.

Yes, there are times and places where we think of saying 'no', and it's perfectly fine to do so. A 'no' can be helpful in saving you time, confusion, guilt, attachments, including other social evils. If you don't feel a hundred percent about something, don't do it. Be honest with yourself, and say 'no' when you feel like it. 

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9. Empathy

Now this is something a lot of people across the world need. Everyone is not like you, or living the life you're living. In fact, no one is like you, or living the life you're living. Their mindset, their moods, their situations, and their expectations might be totally different from yours. Don't judge them; empathise with them. We are so fond of jumping to conclusions, and giving solutions, but have we actually heard the other person out? Do we really know what the real problem is? Learning to empathise with people in your own sphere of life will make you successful, and a favourite for people you get in touch with.

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10. Unlearning

Very difficult to actually practice in real life, but definitely worth giving it a try every time we are in a sticky situation. Unknowingly, we all harbour feelings for people we come in contact with. Based on these feelings, we react to different situations, differently. To assess a scenario perfectly, we must learn to detach ourselves from the person , and try to look at things a little more objectively. Again, very difficult, but must practice.

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11. Teamwork

Every successful person will tell you how important teamwork really is in the road to success. It's only so far that one can go on their own; you need help from others if you want to become the best in life. Messi didn't become football's greatest without the help of others. He needs ten other footballers on his side every week to put up a show for the world to enjoy. Even when it comes to personal life, your teamwork with your partner determines how successful your relationship will become. 

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12. Flexibility

No, not literally. However, if you are literally very flexible, it will not cease to amaze the people you know. But we are talking about mental flexibility here. The flexibility to have a mind strong enough that'll allow you to make spontaneous decisions. Let your gut feeling take over from time to time, if you know what I mean. It will lead you to the right place.

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13. Humility

Not assuming the other person knows less than you do, or that you know much more than the other person. Treat everyone as equal, and never think that you know better than others, because it'll hit you back in the face. True story, bro!

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14. Anger management

We all talk about achieving nirvana, but how many of us are actually trying? The moment we get into the car, and get stuck in that inevitable traffic jam, nirvana goes right out the window, doesn't it? In fact, it's the best way to keep your anger in check - the next time you get stuck in a traffic jam, try making it through without shouting, cursing, changing your lanes, or honking a million times. Trust me, by the time you get out of it, you'll be a much happier person.

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15. Be decisive

Uncertainty can lead you to a lot of uncomfortable situations, if not trouble. From something as simple as not knowing what to eat for lunch, to not knowing what to do next in life, could be a pain (of varying levels of course). Be decisive, know what you want. Even if it's the wrong decision, you'll at least be sure to not repeat it the next time around. Make a decision, and stick to it. 

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16. Respect

The most important rule of all. Respect people. It doesn't matter who they are, how old they are, which place they come from, or what they believe in. Treat others how you want them to treat you. Respect others for they will respect you. 

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Now go take on the world...!!!

Courtesy: indiatimes and the Reference link: India Times link

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Coaching Story: “This Too Shall Pass”

 

Have you struggled with really awful experiences and wished they would quickly pass? Or cursed your strings of bad luck and wondered when the bad streak will ever end? What about the other end – have you ever let a great victory get into your head and made bad decisions? Consider the following story.

There’s a famous fable of an ancient powerful king. As powerful as he was, he often struggled with emotional highs and lows, and that had caused him heavily during critical moments in battles.

The King was prone to periods of great elation where he would make very poor decisions, and periods of great despair where he would get extremely upset.

One of the kingdom’s wise men created a ring for the King, a device that would help stop him from getting lost in his high and low moments.

The King asked, “How does it work?”

“Wear the ring with you always. In times when you need it most, it will show you the answer and you will know what to do.” replied the wise man.

Almost immediately, a horseman rode in and demanded to speak to the King.

“Your Majesty! Your Majesty! The kingdom is surrounded. We’re under attacked!”

The King and all his best men rode out to meet their enemies in the battlefield. They fought for a long time and it appeared that they would be defeated.

Everything seemed dark and hopeless, just when the tired King was about to surrender the ring suddenly shined and caught his attention.

Engraved on the ring was an illuminated message – four words which he did not see before: “This too shall pass.”

All of the sudden, the King found new hope, courage and a burst of energy out of nowhere and fought back with everything he had. His new strength inspired his men to fight like never before, like men possessed. Soon, the tide of the battle turned and they won.

The King returned to his city and threw a massive celebration for many days. Just when he was losing himself in the midst of a great feast, the ring shined and there was an illuminated message which drew his attention.

This time it said, “This too shall pass.”

Those four words woke the King up and returned him to his centered self. He came back to his senses, he returned to clarity, which had always been there inside of him.

Isn’t it interesting that when the King read the message, nothing in the external world changed but his thoughts? That alone changed his whole experience and the eventual outcome.

Terrible, catastrophic moments may cause you to be trapped in a negative spiral of thoughts and you may lose heart…but only for a while, if you let it. Recognize that in those moments, you are feeling the quality of your thoughts and THAT is your reality, not the external world. And those thoughts will surely pass like dark clouds making way for new light to pierce through. Remember: “This too shall pass.” The external circumstances may be the same, but you now live it differently, and therefore, create a different outcome.

In the same way, don’t get too carried away by great triumphant moments. Go ahead, celebrate and indulge in those “feel-good” moments. As long as you do that with a clear head without letting your successes blind you, you’ll be alright. And remember: “This too shall pass.”

It’s not that you should not feel anything and disregard the emotional part of you, it’s just that when you’re aware of where your experiences come from, the false feelings simply fall away. Your feelings is an excellent barometer that tells you the quality of your thinking. If you remain in the gentle awareness of the illusory nature of your thought-generated reality, you’ll be alright. You’ll not lose clarity of what to do in the moment.

There was once a great success coach, and his grandfather once gave him two excellent advice: “When you experience a crushing defeat, failure or make a huge mistake, go ahead and let out your emotions: shout, scream, cry, do whatever you want….for 15 minutes. Then shut up, and get on with it!” and “When you accomplish a great victory, go ahead and celebrate: shout, scream, sing, dance, do whatever you want….for 15 minutes. Then shut up, and get on with it!”

I thought those were great advice!

“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” ~ Syd Banks

Reference:

https://coaching-journey.com/coaching-story-this-too-shall-pass/ 

10 Harsh Truths That Will Improve Your Life Instantaneously

Truth is a beautiful and terrible thing, and should therefore be treated with great attention if you want to improve your life instantaneously.

Everyone wants to make an impact and live a life they can be proud of. But anyone who has ever known success or even been around the block
a time or two knows that life comes with some hard realities.

Success takes hard work and commitment, but what happens when luck and success evade us?

Maybe we have to start looking at the hard truths that show us whether we're standing in the way of our own success.

Maybe what's needed is to spend some time rethinking, revamping, and restructuring our approach to give us the best chance at moving
 forward successfully.

Here are 10 harsh truths--they may not be fun to hear or think about, but they can help you improve your life immediately.

1. You can't control a lot of things--but you can control how you respond.

In life and in business, most things are outside your control. But there is one thing you can always control--and that is yourself, your reactions 
and ideas.

2. Life isn't always happy--but there's value in both the bad and the good.

There is tremendous pressure on all of us to be happy. But life is sometimes difficult and painful. When you let go of the idea that only happiness
 has value, you can accept life in all its glorious complexity.

3. Nothing lasts forever--and that's a good thing.

Whatever the situation or emotion, there's great freedom when you can learn to let go, make the experience a part of who you are becoming,
 and move on.

4. We can do our best and still fail--and it's not our fault.

As leaders we have a tendency to be hard on ourselves. But when you let go of perfectionism you can accept that you did your best, whatever the 
outcome. Hope for the best and expect great things--and if that doesn't happen, let it go.

5. You're not everyone's cup of tea--and that's OK.

It's been acknowledged again and again that you can't please everyone. But if you focus on staying in favor with yourself, you can fly above the
 approval of others.

6. The past is gone--but you can build a great future on its foundation.

We're all inclined to spend time analyzing the past. It's valuable up to a point, but beyond that it's just a recipe for paralysis. Hold onto what 
you have learned, let go of any pain, and move forward into the present--and from there, the future.

7. The beliefs of others are not your concern--acceptance is.

Each one of us is unique in our own way, and that is what makes this world so fantastic. What is right for me may be wrong for you--all we can
 do is to let go of judgment and accept one another for we are.

8. Some people and situations are harmful--and there's strength in walking away.

Once in a while, you encounter a person or situation that's just wasting your time, sucking precious resources and energy from your life. It may not be your place to judge, but that doesn't mean you have to allow toxicity to hold you back. Just leave it behind you.

9. Deceit and games don't fuel careers--trust is the key.

Business is built on relationships, and like partnerships, marriages, or friendships, trust and authenticity are the key components.

10. Many things you can't choose, but you have a choice in everything you do.

You can make excuses, blame others, embrace the toxic and wrong--or you can follow a brighter path. It's up to you.

When you let go of the bad ideas in your life, it's not about weakness--it's about realizing that you are important enough to choose well and 
strong enough to let go of the things that may be holding you back.

I was reading this awesome article from Inc and the original post link below for reference..
http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/10-harsh-truths-that-will-improve-your-life-instantaneously.html?cid=sf01002