A 5-step process for nearly anything!!!
"A 5-step process for nearly anything:
1) Explore widely. Find out what is possible.
2) Test cheaply. Run small, quick experiments. Sample things.
3) Edit ruthlessly. Focus on the best. Cut everything else.
4) Repeat what works. Don't quit on a good idea.
5) Return to 1."
Credits: James Clear
Life: How to choose your life partner?
Context:
I have been asked by many folks (especially the young generations, they are mostly the millennials who could be Generation-Y and the Generation-Z, and they are either basically from the circle of friends at work or known family friends, etc) in the recent past on how they can choose their life partner in the current state of a fast-moving world to have a successful marriage and relationship.
First thing, first!
Examine yourself - are you really ready for marriage?
If the answer to the above question is "No", then, take your own time and just listen to yourself and that's completely okay. Don't go into the trap of marriage😉 for the sake of marriage. And if you wanted to achieve something really big and you are completely different from others, and you think about yourself that you are completely an independent and wanted to live as an individual forever, then really go for it - chase your dreams and you don't get influenced by any of these pressures like the societal or peer or colleague or relative, or family and friends, etc. If you are not ready for the marriage and if you are sure about it, then, more than you are doing good to the marriage you would be trapped in the marriage and you are putting yourself at risk plus your partner also in the same error zone. Also, you can't take risks and you might feel bad or worse or worst based on the outcomes later and you might not even able to enjoy the journey of your married life too, So be cautious is the disclaimer I wanted to mention before I jump on to the other answer.
If the answer is "Yes", then this snippet is for you. Perhaps, this might not be the best free advice if your time for selection is limited, and yet, these are my own experiences by observing myself and others around me in our society and might be useful for you in any way. Don't chase me if this piece of advice doesn't work for you, as I am not the love or relationship guru out there, and let me admit that I am also learning to understand the fast-moving generations and their human nature😃
Thought of the day!
Quote of the day!
If you wanted to be successful, be consistent!!!
References:
https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement/
A few basics to start with,
Understand the difference between effective and efficient first
The top "10 things that require ZERO TALENT" and yet they work very well in your work and life :)
Context
I have recently read the following books and trying to compare here between The Go-Giver vs. The Go-Getter with respect to life, business, and relationships, etc...
By the way, both are amazing and mind-blowing nice reads with a different perspective on life, relationships, and especially on the businesses, etc. and yet, I wanted to share here the key takeaways and the impressive changes one can make to their perspectives.
The Go-Giver
The Go-Giver talks more about others than you/yourself in a given situation, and presses more on the following 5 laws.
Here are the 3 most inspiring lessons about focusing on others more than yourself:
The Go-Getter
The Go-Getter talks more about you to hustle and focusses more on the motto of ''it shall be done!" and "getting things done!" along with a lot of emphasis on "your own faith" to achieve success.
Here are the 4 most inspiring lessons about focusing on yourself than others while hustling:
Final take:
Both go-getter and go-giver are important in anyone's career, business, and life, etc. The go-getter is good for the short term for a limited span of network with their accomplished successes but not for the long term, whereas the go-giver with the right mix of more authenticity and overall positive experiences to a cause works very well for the long term with elevated successes and happiness for broader networks. Especially, the go-giver works well for maintaining long-lasting relationships. Also, the go-givers do more sales than the go-getters in any business. In a logical way, one has to work like a go-giver but that doesn't mean that go-getters are bad, here the main perspective to understand is go-giver is an old-time go-getter and revolutionized and transformed as go-giver at heart, but one's mind acts like go-getter only to get the shit done.
Sources:
The Go-Giver
https://www.amazon.com/Go-Giver-Little-Story-Powerful-Business-ebook/dp/B0010O922C
http://goodinfection.com/summary-the-go-giver-bob-burg-john-david-mann/
https://lifeclub.org/books/the-go-giver-bob-burg-and-john-david-mann-review-summary
The Go-Getter
https://www.jeffprewitt.com/the-go-getter-book-review/
Context
Here is the super quick book summary of the book "7 Strategies for Wealth and Happiness"
Source:
https://readingraphics.com/book-summary-7-strategies-for-wealth-happiness-jim-rohn/
Have you struggled with really awful experiences and wished they would quickly pass? Or cursed your strings of bad luck and wondered when the bad streak will ever end? What about the other end – have you ever let a great victory get into your head and made bad decisions? Consider the following story.
There’s a famous fable of an ancient powerful king. As powerful as he was, he often struggled with emotional highs and lows, and that had caused him heavily during critical moments in battles.
The King was prone to periods of great elation where he would make very poor decisions, and periods of great despair where he would get extremely upset.
One of the kingdom’s wise men created a ring for the King, a device that would help stop him from getting lost in his high and low moments.
The King asked, “How does it work?”
“Wear the ring with you always. In times when you need it most, it will show you the answer and you will know what to do.” replied the wise man.
Almost immediately, a horseman rode in and demanded to speak to the King.
“Your Majesty! Your Majesty! The kingdom is surrounded. We’re under attacked!”
The King and all his best men rode out to meet their enemies in the battlefield. They fought for a long time and it appeared that they would be defeated.
Everything seemed dark and hopeless, just when the tired King was about to surrender the ring suddenly shined and caught his attention.
Engraved on the ring was an illuminated message – four words which he did not see before: “This too shall pass.”
All of the sudden, the King found new hope, courage and a burst of energy out of nowhere and fought back with everything he had. His new strength inspired his men to fight like never before, like men possessed. Soon, the tide of the battle turned and they won.
The King returned to his city and threw a massive celebration for many days. Just when he was losing himself in the midst of a great feast, the ring shined and there was an illuminated message which drew his attention.
This time it said, “This too shall pass.”
Those four words woke the King up and returned him to his centered self. He came back to his senses, he returned to clarity, which had always been there inside of him.
Isn’t it interesting that when the King read the message, nothing in the external world changed but his thoughts? That alone changed his whole experience and the eventual outcome.
Terrible, catastrophic moments may cause you to be trapped in a negative spiral of thoughts and you may lose heart…but only for a while, if you let it. Recognize that in those moments, you are feeling the quality of your thoughts and THAT is your reality, not the external world. And those thoughts will surely pass like dark clouds making way for new light to pierce through. Remember: “This too shall pass.” The external circumstances may be the same, but you now live it differently, and therefore, create a different outcome.
In the same way, don’t get too carried away by great triumphant moments. Go ahead, celebrate and indulge in those “feel-good” moments. As long as you do that with a clear head without letting your successes blind you, you’ll be alright. And remember: “This too shall pass.”
It’s not that you should not feel anything and disregard the emotional part of you, it’s just that when you’re aware of where your experiences come from, the false feelings simply fall away. Your feelings is an excellent barometer that tells you the quality of your thinking. If you remain in the gentle awareness of the illusory nature of your thought-generated reality, you’ll be alright. You’ll not lose clarity of what to do in the moment.
There was once a great success coach, and his grandfather once gave him two excellent advice: “When you experience a crushing defeat, failure or make a huge mistake, go ahead and let out your emotions: shout, scream, cry, do whatever you want….for 15 minutes. Then shut up, and get on with it!” and “When you accomplish a great victory, go ahead and celebrate: shout, scream, sing, dance, do whatever you want….for 15 minutes. Then shut up, and get on with it!”
I thought those were great advice!
“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” ~ Syd Banks
Reference:
https://coaching-journey.com/coaching-story-this-too-shall-pass/
It is quite common for anyone to go through the ups and downs and that is what is life.
I want to leave you all with something special and has much wisdom: The Butterfly
A man found a cocoon for a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and could go no farther. Then the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. Something was strange. The butterfly had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and deformed wings. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand, was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the small opening of the cocoon are God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through all our life without any obstacles, that would cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been. Not only that, we could never fly!